There was a night in last Ramadhan, my sister told me that she would wear hijab after Idul Fitri day. Before that moment, I had a feeling that it would happen, so, I wasn’t surprise at all. I smiled to her and said “alhamdulillah, you’re on the right path dear”, but for my family, It’s kinda sudden act for them, they were worrying that she might change her mind in the middle of her school, they keep asking “are you for sure?” “don’t you think it is so fast?” “how about postpone till you’ve graduated from highschool?” and any other questions which possibly made her undecided…
I do know that hijab is mandatory for muslimah, and she does know too. However, I never intend to force anyone to wear it since it’s their own choice to obey or not with God’s rule. The only thing we can do just remind them and pray for them that Allah can change their heart to obey it.
Ingatkan dan berdoa untuknya 🙂
Couple days later, she came to me and asked me this, “Someone tell me to wear hijab after graduating from high school which means 3 years later. What do you think?”
Then I answered her softly, “Dear, if there’s a goodwill, you should not postpone it, shouldn’t you?”
Kalo punya niat baik, jangan ditunda ya!
Then, she smiled at me and I knew she felt better at the moment.
But, the struggle didn’t stop there, I understood that it wasn’t so easy choosing to cover up your body with jilbab and hijab while most of your friends at your age (she is 14 years old actually) wear short simple dress and elongate their hair with no worry to hide it inside hijab. I know she is not a girl who care so much about this, she usually picks only short sleeve t-shirt and jeans, and now she should ensure that her clothes cover up from head to toe. Yes, it is definitely difficult at the first time even she didn’t tell me.
However, I see her not as a perfect girl because we all know that nobody’s perfect. Her choice to wear hijab doesn’t mean that she has been perfect already or she must be perfect after doing that, it’s not something like that. I can see that it is an act that she is learning to obey what Muslimah should do. In line with that, she also want to improve herself to be better as what we are doing now in this world…It is a must that everyday we upgrade our faith (iman) and worship since there are so many things to be grateful for.
Back to her, in other night she asked me to tell her a story, It is common for me telling her a story before sleeping since she was toddler. So I chose this story,
One day there is a women who wake up from her sleep and sees a beautiful place around her. The place is like a beautiful park which she never know before. She is wondering where she has been up to until she sees a women and ask her
A: halo sister, can you tell me where we are now?
B: (smile) We are in a waiting space to paradise, sister.
A: Ah really? This place is so beautiful and I couldn’t imagine how amazing the paradise will be like…
B: Yes, you’re right. What have you done on earth which bring you to paradise, sister?
A: When I was on earth, I did social charity to many orphans children, how about you, sister?
B: I did the same, that’s why we are in the same place now.
Suddenly, there are some doors open and show the light to the people…
B: Come on, the door already opened, now we can move to the real paradise, be hurry! (running so fast)
A: (running) Why it is so difficult for me to follow you? It is like I am not moving at all to come to that door…What are good deeds you have done?
B: (already arrived in front of the door) I did the same as you did…
A: (still far away from the door) What brought you there? What make us different?
B: You’ve already known, I wear hijab and you don’t. That’s the only thing.
A: But I had goodwill to cover my body with jilbab after covering my heart.
B: That’s the point, because you only cover your heart , so, let the paradise will be only in your heart…
Then B move through the door and leave A.
I took this story from facebook (with modification) and it might be only an illustration or fiction but we may take a lesson from the woman that she was trying to be good in every way but she couldn’t accept one of His rule to cover up her body with jilbab. (See Al-Ahzab: 59 and An-Nuur: 31)
You may take moral message from this story by your own perspective, but I told her to always remember this story and remind that the reason why we should wear hijab is to obey to Him, to get His blessings, and to be in paradise in the end of the day.
Now, it has been 2 months since my sister lives with her hijab. I know it’s still new but I am so happy that sometimes she also corrects my hijab. We’re not perfect but having two sisters who has the same life mission is very valuable. I am so grateful of it.
The last but not least, thank you for every sisters in Islam who always give me lessons to be better everyday. I am not perfect nor know everything. But I realized that as long as I have time, there’s always chance to learn, to upgrade my faith, so I hope everyone does too. See you all in His jannah ya, shalihah!